Do You Really Want It?
Do you want what you say you really want? Over the years, I’ve noticed many people love the idea of success but don’t fully commit to doing what it takes to reach it. We live in a time where distractions are everywhere. Sometimes, I even think they’re designed on purpose to keep us off track—but that’s a blog for another day.
Some people fall into the routine of making themselves look like they’re trying versus actually trying because they’re scared to fail. In my opinion, failure helps you learn how to become successful. If you see something isn’t working, you step back, reassess, and try a different strategy.
Wishing for something and obsessing over getting it done are two different things. Wishing feels like fantasy—“Oh, I wish this would happen,” almost to the point where it feels out of your hands. But obsession? That’s different. When you’re obsessed, you are actively finding ways to reach your goal.
Wishing is random. Obsession is constant. You may wish for something every now and then, but when you’re obsessed, it’s on your mind daily—you can’t let it go. It becomes more than just a want—it slowly becomes a part of the reality you’re building around you.
The world is designed to spark your interest and keep you entertained because attention is a form of currency if you didn’t already know. That’s why it’s so easy to be “interested” in something but not actually follow through to take it to the next level. Interest holds less commitment, so you may feel like you don’t have to be held accountable or put in the extra work.
When you’re obsessed, you won’t stop until you feel victory. And if you lose? You’re right back at it, figuring out what to change.
The late, great Kobe Bryant (RIP) is a perfect example of someone who was obsessed with his craft and made countless sacrifices to reach his goals. He didn’t wish to be an NBA athlete or champion—he obsessed over it and did everything he could to make it happen. His legacy says everything I need to say about his work ethic. One of the guys I still look up to!
When I was growing up, dancing on the subway and around the city to make money, I was obsessed with never feeling poor again. The environment I was raised in made me determined to change my circumstances. I never saw hours of rehearsals as work because I loved it. I was too young for a “real” job, so hitting the streets with AmountBoyz on weekends was my situation. Dancing for hours, then counting up our earnings, getting hyped over dollar bills—that was my first taste of the grind. That feeling stayed with me.
If I need to stay up 24 hours to get something done, that’s what I’ll do. When I want results, it’s tunnel vision until the goal is met.
What Are Some Signs That You’re Not Committed?
You make excuses. Sometimes they’re attached to money, time, or lack of resources. But I’ve never seen someone forget to be committed when it’s time to pick up their paycheck. That type of energy is the commitment you need to make the universe bend at your will.
Only doing the work when it’s convenient—that’s an easy way to see that you’re not fully committed. If you only do something when it fits your schedule and doesn’t put you out of your way, then you don’t really want it.
Another way to notice is if you’re waiting for opportunities to happen instead of going out and creating them for yourself. You have to be proactive to get what you want.
If an animal in the wild is hungry, it has to be proactive to get a meal—then, and only then, will it eat. This is a harsh business. Only the strong will survive.
How to Make the Shift.
I find that creating daily habits you can implement slowly will help you create a new culture within yourself. Moving slowly ensures that it sticks with you and isn’t just a quick burst of motivation that fades.Following a system helps you eliminate distractions. You start finding clarity by sticking to a structure.Are you spending hours scrolling mindlessly on social media? That time could have been used to reach your next level. Time, to me, is one of the most valuable assets anyone can have.
When you’re putting in work, you have to find ways to stay motivated even when your results don’t come as fast as you’d like. This is why learning to enjoy the process instead of just the destination will set you up for long-term success.
My Final Thought.
I want you to take a second and really reflect on your goals. Be honest about your level of commitment.
If you’re reading this—take action today, not tomorrow.
And if you’re not obsessed with making it happen, maybe you don’t want it as much as you thought you did.
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